Slim? Good. Fluffy, as they say in Jamaica, or curvy? Great. Fall somewhere in between both? Excellent!
Point is, whatever your weight you are perfect!
Slim, Dark, Curvy, Light Skin – Who Cares!
People across cultures, races and even religion are taught to fit in. Admittedly, as a parent, I also teach my son social skills acceptable to society. These skills are passed along generation to generation. That, however, does not mean that he must blindly follow anyone. Most definitely does not mean he will give up what is natural to him.
Above all, I am adamant that he understands that he is not to fit in. Only his ideas and dreams are to chart his course. He knows that he is not to conform to anyone’s idea of who he is supposed to be. My son is taught not to conform to people’s expectations.
And neither should you.
Whatever your body size, your skin colour, even your gender, you are not meant to fit in. Have you thought about “fitting out?”
I think fitting in is highly overrated. I’d rather just fit out. Fitting out means being who you are, even when people insist that you have to change. Fitting out means taking up space, not apologizing for yourself, and not agreeing with those who seek to label you with stereotypes.” ―
Live On Your Own Terms
People’s expectations of you can be extremely misleading. Equally, their notion of how you should be living your life is often problematic. For instance, when their thoughts are not in alignment with the Creator’s purpose for your life – “Houston, we have a problem!”
Pay little or no attention to such persons. When they tell you that you need to do this or that, to look better, lose weight or get a better paying job – ignore them. If what they are telling you feels off, it is off. Align with the purpose for which you were created. Failure to do so will result in your missing your joy for sake of keeping up with society’s expectations.
For example, take this friend of mine. She has one child and loves him dearly. For a very long time, he showed great passion and interest in the culinary arts. However, she saw things differently. She had another image for her child’s future. So, rather than supporting his passion, she opted to do otherwise. My friend directed him to pursue another path. Would you know that to this day, this young man has not been able to develop a marketable skill?
Stop Chasing Pipe Dreams!
Situations such as this, quite frankly, angers me. The sad reality is that they frequently do. Parents have set ideas about what career path their children should pursue.
“Why would you waste time, energy and very limited resources pursuing pipe dreams?” many ask.
While they may be dreams, they are certainly not piped. Moreover, all of us is born with innate skills and talents. Over time and with encouragement, they come forth. However, too many parents, elders and thought-leaders quash these dreams.
Children and even adults are pressured either overtly or covertly into conforming to the world’s expectations. Sadly, too many of us feel uncomfortable in the skin God put us in.
Know this, you are beautifully and wonderfully created. You are not meant to be what the world says. There is certainly no limit to what you can be. Editing yourself to be slim, to have a lighter complexion, to have a different texture of hair – none of that will be enough unless it is who you really are.
In short, ignore the world. Most importantly, stop conforming to the world’s standards and norms. Transform your life now according to your own desires and for which you were created.
Take that Leap – Slim Or Curvy!
You are special. Know that you are beautiful. You are smart. More than anything else, you are a child of God. You are no accident.
Your hair, skin, body type – slim, fluffy or curvy, your stature and your brain are all original designs. So embrace your beauty. Embrace you!