The idea that women “fight against” each other is such an ancient one that it has become somewhat like a law of life or rules of the game, so to speak. I am not sure where it has its roots or whether it is a mythical or psychological tale that someone spun many years ago that we have managed to perpetuate.
One thing that I know for sure is that this pattern of behaviour: backstabbing, pulling at each other’s skirt tails, and attempting to drag another woman off of the proverbial ladder has marred and scarred so many of us.
In my own experience, women were never considered to be my friends for a very long time but someone to compete with for limited resources. Whether it was the affection of a man or a coveted promotion, I practised and mastered (I hate to admit) the art of “women being our own worst enemies.”
Fight Or Understand Her
A demure woman was the first to begin tutoring me to change my attitude. She reminded me that all my behaviour towards others is a reflection of, not their, but my demons.
Yes, really and as the years went by and the lessons deepened, I began to understand the truth of this lesson. Learning to love myself, to erase as best as I could the recording of the most significant woman in my life, my mother, putting me down, my wings grew and my heart expanded.
Today, at the ripe old age of 57, some of the most important lessons that must be passed on to young girls are:
- Self-love and self-respect
- Cooperation over competition
- Truth and honour above all else
What about you? What story will you be telling of woman- and sisterhood.
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Be blessed and be a blessing,