Why? That is the question we are proposing that you ask yourself to understand why you do what you do. Why are you in a particular job or relationship?

Have you ever gone to bed feeling completely overwhelmed by the tentacles of another?

That drowning feeling overcame me every now and again. Having been through the tumultuous ride called depression years ago, I knew what to do. The signs of slipping into the deep murky end of the emotional sea are now well known to me.

As any drowning person would do, I cried out for help. Well, actually, I Facebook messaged for a ring buoy.

Why, Why, Why?

Eight years ago, this rude awakening happened and it was one of those turning points. One of my tools is reaching out to another wounded healer. This time it was my cousin.

Stunned and bloated with tears though I was, my mind was still racing with questions. As my lifeguard, my cousin, used her shepherd’s crook to pull me in, I asked her, “Why will she not leave me the @$%* alone?” 

There is something infantile in the presumption that somebody else has a responsibility to give your life meaning and point… The truly adult view, by contrast, is that our life is as meaningful, as full and as wonderful as we choose to make it.” ― Richard DawkinsThe God Delusion

Simple Question

Such a simple yet profound and oftentimes unanswerable question. Posing it, most of the time we really do not anticipate a satisfying response. Yet, asking “Why” can start a conversation that eventually lights a path to follow.

My cousin could not give me a definitive answer and I did not expect one. Her Australian candor and wit, however, sliced my pain like Spanish machetes in the mangroves.  Sleep came soon after logging off from her.

I arose the following morning with a throbbing headache but was certain of what needed to be done.

The Answer

“Be the question,” was what Bishop John Shelby Spong told me two decades ago as I sought his direction regarding my calling.

So, today I am “Why?”

Blessings and have a peace-filled day. Namaste

 

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