Five, yes, here are five things that you ought to say, “No thanks,” and never repeat.
Before getting into the details of those five things, let me give you the back story.
Every day of the week is special to me. This has been the case for about five years now. There was a time that it was not so. Back in 2015, there was a Friday that I was particularly glad for. Reflecting on it, my thoughts turned to the things that I am grateful for and those that I would not repeat.
See, every day of the week, every month, every season and every place that I have lived hold at least one thing special for me. Those things would gladly be repeated or revisited by me.
One Day Back Then
Despite this positive outlook on life that has become very much a part of my way of being, there are things that I would not like to repeat. One example is being sick, especially with a cold on a Fall day. On such a day six years ago, Fall arrived bringing me the gift of a cold. My day started out with me doing everything possible to get rid of the wrappings of this gift. I thrust at it with Vick’s vapour rub (although they say you are not to use it during the day), honey/lemon/garlic tea and anything else that I could lay my hands on.
Of two minds whether to call in sick for the third day in a row, I decided by noon that things were under control enough to go in. This was after also managing other aches and pain that had also come upon me. I thought the day would be okay.
Well, it went sideways very quickly and my mood turned foul but my colleagues at the time knew that was not my normal way of being. So, they humoured me and stayed far away from me. As soon as it was possible to leave I did. When I got home, I vegged for the rest of the evening on the couch. I soon passed out for a few hours with Netflix watching me. Around midnight, I hauled my stuffy and aching body to bed and again quickly relapsed into a deep sleep until around 4:00 a.m. when I was rudely awakened.
Five Things Never To Repeat
This leads me to the five things that need not repeat themselves once they have left my or your experience. One you have no control over but the others are well within your control and my suggestion to you – do not request repeat performances. What are they?
Number 1: Period
Many years ago, I shared with my girlfriends (when Daughters of Sheba was a private Facebook group) that menopause was not something that I was looking forward to experiencing. They allayed my fear and concern, mainly about hot flashes and growing a beard. When my “time” came and my period disappeared for eight or nine months, I started doing the happy dance. One of my friends is a medical doctor and a couple of others have grown through this stage of life and they all told me to not dance so soon.
They were right as two months later, just on the eve of the twelfth month, which is the official sign that you are a Menopausal Woman, my period returned. Needless to say, I was not amused as I had grown to appreciate not having the monthly “issue.” Well, it lasted a couple of days and went away again for a few months but this time while hopeful, I did not dance. Thank heavens because she came back on that Friday (back in 2015) and helped to make my day painfully crappy!
All the women that I am close with, now wear the title of Menopausal Woman and do so joyfully. Once the period is over, no woman wants a repeat performance, please and thank you!
The Other Four Things
With less detail, as they each speak for themselves, the other four no-repeat matters are:
A Bad Date
– if you go on a date, one that left you wanting in any way, bored, pulling at your short and curlies – why repeat it?
A Broken Heart
– who needs to get their heart broken twice, especially by the same person? Who asks for a repeat? Once is enough to know that it is not worth being in a relationship, maybe even contact, with a known heart-breaker.
A-One Night Stand
– some of you will not publicly admit to this but I full well know that most of us have had this experience, whether knowingly or through what they call a “ghost” experience. This is a no-repeat affair of no mean order. You get the point the first time, mark it off your bucket list and try for someone who wants to repeat the sexual experience with you, hopefully at least three times a week!
A Terrible Dining Experience
– food, good food is high on my list and one thing that I will not repeat is buying a terrible meal over and over. My daughter will tell you that there is no shame in my game about letting my dissatisfaction be known about the customer service and/or the quality of the meal, particularly at high-priced restaurants.
What’s On Your List?
Thankfully, it was the last repeat appearance of my “Auntie” as we call women’s monthly visitor in Jamaica. What is on your list of “Do Not Repeat?” Share with us in the comments below and do Subscribe to receive a daily email update of our posts. As well, follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter and receive updates of all our posts that are not published here.
Be blessed, be a blessing and do not repeat what ought not to be!